Attract More Positive and Live Your Best Life – with Kristine Fredheim

Today’s show is about a topic that matters to all of us. We’re discussing how to leave the negative behind, attract more positive karma, and shine brighter as we move toward our life’s purpose to live our best life. Don’t you want to learn more?

Kristine Fredheim is an acclaimed psychic medium, spiritual advisor, and author. With a Master’s degree in Neuro-Linguistic Programming, she launched Soul Life in 2014 to help people connect with their spirituality, find hope, and achieve their full potential. At a young age, Kristine discovered her ability to see the past, present, and future, as well as to connect with loved ones who have passed on. With these experiences and insights, Kristine authored two books entitled Behind My Face and The Ring of Power. She’s been a regular contributor to Huffington Post, and she’s been featured in Elle, O Magazine, Teen Vogue, and on The Jenny McCarthy Show, among many others. In this episode, Kristine shares how she came to recognize her spiritual gifts, how to tap into your own intuition to better your work and personal life, how her father came to be her spiritual guide, and her relationship and promise to Marilyn Monroe. 

Soul agreements

From her research and training, Kristine has learned that before we are born, we make agreements with our guides about what we are supposed to come to earth to learn, what we’ll do, how to work on our karma, and to make a plan for our life. Out of her own tumultuous background, Kristine discovered that if you don’t work through your difficult situations, then you’ll continually attract the negative aspects of past wounds. The darkness of those wounds is released when you address it, and we agree to this before we enter our life. A soul agreement is not about a person’s worth but is about becoming brighter through the lessons we learn. 

Becoming a medium

Kristine recognized her unusual gifts early on, but she had to set an intention about how she would use them. She went to medium school, opened Soul Life, and marketed her practice to clients in North America, even though she is a native Norwegian who still resides there. She desired to reach a broader clientele than the narrow niche of her Norwegian culture. Now she focuses on helping clients find clarity on how they can improve their lives. She explains why it’s important to observe the rules of etiquette and consent in the work she does, simply because soul work is so intensely personal.

Attracting clients

Kristine has noticed that the clients who are attracted to her are usually going through similar experiences to her own. Helping them brings clarity to her life as she magnetically attracts those with similar needs. Because most people find spirituality to be weird and something to fear, Kristine created a brand that is relatable to people and their everyday problems and needs, and she did this with the help of a great marketing team. 

Alternative modalities

Intuition was the spiritual buzzword just a couple of years ago in the world of spirituality, but now people are more curious about their soul family, a soulmate, and the science behind what happens to our souls when we die. Kristine’s research shows that some souls stay earthbound as ghosts instead of stepping into the light. Others have their guides meet them and send them home to the light.

Kristine’s tarot cards

Kristine has created several varieties of tarot cards in memory of her mother, who helped introduce her to spirituality. After her mom passed, Kristine wanted to honor her by creating something beautiful in her memory. Her cards are unique and traditional with a fresh, new look. She explains how the cards are used as a tool in conversation with your spirit and your subconscious. 

Medium school

Kristine went to school to be a spiritual medium. Even though that might conjure up visions of something you’ve seen in a movie, Kristine says that it’s a real school for which she had to apply and be chosen for, based on her interests and skills. She knew that in order to pursue a career in spirituality, she wanted to get the education and certifications to be as professional in her field as possible. She learned about chakras, readings, channeling, spirit conversations, business skills, tarot cards, and much, much more. 

Neuro-linguistic programming

Kristine has a Master’s degree in neuro-linguistic programming, but she doesn’t use it regularly in her work. Her education and skills only come into play when she teaches clients how to use specific techniques to release their emotional traumas. Reframing a traumatic experience is one example of a technique used in NLP. Kristine explains that NLP is basically how the brain works to help you have a better life in spite of past trauma. It’s simply a faster way to clear through the hard stuff than therapy when it comes to dealing with issues. 

A typical session with Kristine

When Kristine schedules a session with a client, she knows nothing about them ahead of time. She talks to them through Skype or FaceTime audio so she can choose her eyes and channel. Her father is her spiritual guide, so he tells her everything she needs to know to help her client have a better life. Kristine then relays his message to her client. A typical session with Kristine lasts about 45 minutes. 

Kristine and Marilyn Monroe

We are all connected to our soul families in the spirit world, and Marilyn Monroe is in Kristine’s soul family. Kristine and Marilyn have had multiple previous lives together, and they remain connected today. Marilyn was one of the first spirits that Kristine saw as a baby, and she felt recognition and comfort with her right away. Marilyn came in and out of Kristine’s life throughout her upbringing, and her parents didn’t try to squelch the relationship when Kristine explained it to them. Kristine feels that one of her life purposes and a soul plan before her birth is for her to clear Marilyn’s name and reputation during her lifetime. She remains committed to this goal today. 

How to cultivate intuition

If you want to be in touch with your soul and your intuition, it’s important to have a daily practice where you ground yourself with yoga, meditation, and reading to learn more. Kristine recommends using a journal to write down your intuitive experiences and learn to trust the relationship between you and your intuition. It needs to be an intention about which you are honest. Kristine says if you tell the universe your intention, then you’ll get the help you need. 

Highlights of this episode:

  • 10:37 – Soul agreements
  • 14:56 – Becoming a medium
  • 19:01 – Attracting clients from faraway places
  • 27:28 – Alternative modalities
  • 33:13 – Kristine’s tarot cards
  • 39:15 – What medium school is like
  • 41:21 – Neuro-linguistic programming
  • 44:52 – A typical session with Kristine
  • 51:32 – Kristine and Marilyn Monroe
  • 55:26 – Cultivating intuition
  • 57:25 – Fem Five

Resources mentioned:

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Where the Crawdads Sing by Delia Owens and Mrs. Everything by Jennifer Weiner

The Fem Five:

1. Favorite book to recommend for women?

Where the Crawdads Sing by Delia Owens and Mrs. Everything by Jennifer Weiner

2. Favorite self-care hack?

“Alone time away from my phone just to read or be alone.”

3. Best piece of advice and who gave it to you?

“My grandfather told me to do whatever the f**k you want.”

4. Female CEO or thought leader you’re into right now?

Reese Witherspoon

5. One piece of advice you’d give your five years younger self?

“Stop wasting your time on stupid little boys!”

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