We’ve all seen super achievers – those people who seem to get amazing amounts of important stuff done while maintaining a quality lifestyle and good relationships. How do they do it? My guest today is an expert at helping people become super achievers or simply to achieve more in life. Christina Eanes spent the bulk of her adult life serving as an FBI serial homicide and sexual assault crimes investigator and has used that experience to become a consultant to anyone who wants to accomplish more in life. In this episode, she gives us tips about the nuts and bolts of successful mentor relationships, tells how she made her career pivot from FBI agent to entrepreneur, and shares how to get out of your own way to get on the road to becoming a super achiever.
Super achiever characteristic: Use adversity as an opportunity to learn.
It’s been said that for many people their main adversity is that they haven’t had enough adversity in their lives. Christina can tell you exactly what that means because she’s seen firsthand how those who achieve at amazing levels intentionally use adversity as a stepping stone to the next, greater version of themselves. Christina shares how her own adversities have driven her forward and provides tips for how you can make a mindset shift about adversity that will help you not only overcome it but use it to your advantage – on this episode of NextFem.
“I’m going to quit letting life determine me and determine who I’m going to be in life.”
That’s what Christina Eanes said to herself when she realized that she’d spent most of her life allowing circumstances to limit what she believed she could do in life. It was a powerful turning point because it enabled her to begin looking at the world and her place in it, in a different light – one that was empowering instead of restricted. On this episode you’re going to hear how Christina made that transition, the steps it took to craft an entirely new outlook and approach to life, and how it all translated into her current role helping others make the same kinds of shifts in their thinking and consequently, their lives.
Have you learned how to stand up for yourself, especially with the ones you love?
As Christina was beginning to make the mindset shift that enabled her to become her own version of a super achiever, she had to face many difficult facts about herself. One of those was that though she was very good at standing up for her positions and opinions in her role with the FBI, she was poor at it in relation to family members and others who were close to her. That led to some painful but liberating decisions that ultimately set her up for a greater level of personal fulfillment and career success. Find out how Christina came to terms with her own shortcomings and what she did about it, on this episode of NextFem.
How to find a quality mentor, set up the relationship for success, and benefit tremendously.
Christina is one of those people who touts the benefits of finding a great mentor – but how she went about finding a mentor and establishing the relationship was novel, to say the least. Christina approached an amazing woman she wanted to mentor her, with her guns fully loaded. She had a plan, an outline of how the relationship would work, and some significant reasons why it would be beneficial for the mentor as well. She says the main thing is to make sure you make the “Yes” as easy as possible by making the mentoring itself as easy as possible. Find out exactly what she means by that, on this episode.
Episode Highlights
- 2:07 – How did a nice woman like Christina become a serial crimes investigator for the FBI?
- 5:27 – What is really meant by “criminal profiling” and “violent crimes analysis?”
- 13:37 – The things that caused Christina to question her direction and decide to make a change.
- 17:55 – The most recent adversity Christina has faced and how she grew from it.
- 22:43 – Why super achievers use adversity as an opportunity to learn.
- 25:00 – Establishing and rolling out new initiatives within the FBI.
- 28:50 – The most challenging team dynamics for Christina while working in the FBI: other women on the team.
- 31:50 – How the adversity has impacted Christina’s ability to succeed in life.
- 36:44 – Moving from criminal investigations to helping others become super achievers.
- 41:18 – How Christina got a great mentor and how she set up the relationship for success.
- 45:05 – Is becoming a super achiever for everyone? What does it take to become one?
- 49:20 – Why well-being is essential to maximum achievement.
- 51:06 – How you can tell the difference between super achieving and being on the hamster wheel?
Resources Mentioned
- www.QuitBleepingAround.com – Christina’s website
- The National Center for the Analysis of Violent Crime
- Cal Newport
1. Favorite book for women?
- The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck by Mark Manson
2. Favorite self-care hack?
- I ask myself, “What do I need today?” Then I answer the question and give it to myself.
3. Best piece of advice and who gave it to you?
- Christina’s father told her just before he died, “As surely as we are born, we are all dying. It’s what we do to make a difference in between to make the world a better place that counts.”
4. Female CEO or thought leader you’re into right now?
5. One piece of advice you’d give your 5 years younger self?
- Keep doing what you’re doing. Laugh and have fun.
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